Dinner is served. Wash your hands, pass the roles – and, BTW, don’t talk to anyone! It’s a time for while eating after all, no socializing is allowed…at least, according to this mom on Reddit. She complained that her husband had the audacity to (*gasp!*) want to make small talk with their 10 and 13 year olds over meals, so she did the only logical thing: ban him from family dinners. . Eh?
In the always entertaining “Am I the Asshole?” subreddit, a mother went online to complain about her husband and ended up getting roasted instead.
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First, a bit of history. “My husband (37) has an illness which has worsened over the past 4 months,” she wrote. “He is now on a diet and has a strict eating schedule as part of his health management.”
OK, that complicates things a bit. He must have certain foods that the rest of the family does not have. But does that mean he shouldn’t even be allowed to sit at the table with his wife and two children?
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“The kids and I eat regular foods that I cook every day,” she continued. “The problem is that every time we sit down to eat, my husband tries to join us.” So… ? Isn’t it strange that she doesn’t want her husband to sit with them?
“I don’t mean join us to eat although he tried once but swore he wouldn’t touch food again,” she clarified. “But it was hard to take his word for it. Now he’s asking to be allowed to sit with me and the kids while we eat, just so he doesn’t miss that bonding time with the family.
Poor man! He just wants to eat with his family, but his wife is too worried about him hiding food from her, so she doesn’t even want him at the table. It’s heartbreaking. But that’s not the only reason she doesn’t want him.
“I declined because he might try to get his hands on the food, and also it would be awkward for him to sit and watch us eat,” she continued. “He made the case that he wanted to feel included at the table and be able to chat with the kids and bond with them.”
He actually makes a valid point? He literally begs to be included and she pushes him away!
She continued, “I told him he could do it literally anytime anywhere, but not at the dining table. The kids and I should be able to eat quietly and peacefully without having to talk. “
Stop and read that again. She doesn’t want to “busy talking”? At dinner time?! How else are you supposed to wonder about your days and laugh at funny things and catch up? It’s incredibly strange that this overbearing mother wants everyone to sit quietly and swallow their food.
“He got angry saying that I don’t understand and that by not allowing him to join us, I’m trying to control where he can be and how he relates with the kids,” a- she continued. “I refused to discuss it but he launched into a hissing fit calling me unreasonable and saying I was isolating him because of his condition.”
Maybe he said BECAUSE YOU ARE! Control to the maximum, damn it.
Reddit was completely baffled by the whole situation. “Wtf, did I just read? one person wrote, adding, “Ummmm? Don’t care to share your days? Talk about your hopes and dreams? Your favorite TV shows? Who doesn’t talk at the table? Do you sit in silence? Do you even love yourself?”
The questions are endless as this story is crazy. Why wouldn’t you want to spend meaningful, uninterrupted time together? It’s so precious and she wants it.
“Yeah I read that and was confused too,” wrote another. “Also, can’t OP cook just one meal that husband and kids can all enjoy together? Can’t they all get involved in the kitchen and also use it as a bonding moment? I just don’t understand why this has to be such a black and white issue.
Another said: ‘OP disguising her husband’s health issues as a way of preventing him from spending time with his children is wild. Controlling his diet to improve his condition is one thing, but you can’t blame him for wanting silence.
“How dare my husband want to spend time with our family at the dinner table, forcing us to break our long, uncomfortable silences with…um…conversation,” someone else joked. Seriously, how could OP type this message and not realize how ridiculous she was?
“She looks like some kind of robot,” someone else commented. “This 100% abusive behavior. Switch gender roles and it immediately becomes clear that this is serious controlling behavior.
“Let me get this straight – you have subjected your husband, for whom eating has now become a stressful and medically burdensome experience, to even more isolation and stress around mealtimes by banning him from the dining room table ?” someone wrote. “And what’s it like having to talk at the table, that’s literally the whole point of eating together. Yes, YTA, and I’m a little worried about your husband’s ability to defend himself.
Someone responded to this comment saying, “No shit. Why does he even have to ask and why does OP decide? YTA.”
“YTA. Who anointed you queen of the dinner table? Your husband is not one of your children and should not obey your orders,” someone else said. So true. is his home and his family too. It goes without saying, but he should be able to sit at his fucking table without feeling bad! This mom needs to rethink her priorities – and stop being such a jerk.
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